Chatty Kathy

Chatty Kathy

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Dear Chatty Kathy,

I’m in grade 10 and it feels like everyone around me is prettier than I am. My family and friends always try to make me feel better by telling me that I am pretty. But how can I when all of my friends look like models and I look like a whale. Anyways, they have to say I’m pretty since they’re my friends, and they wouldn’t tell me if I wasn’t. I just don’t know what to do anymore.

Sincerely,

Self-Conscious Student

Dear Self-Conscious Student,

You can’t go through life assuming that your friends are just lying to you, otherwise what kind of friends would they be? If they say that you’re pretty, there’s no sense in arguing with them, and I’m sure that they don’t appreciate how little faith you put into them and their opinions. Attractiveness is a subjective thing, and just because you don’t think you’re pretty, it doesn’t mean that everyone else thinks the same thing.

Also, while it’s important to have self-confidence, it’s absolutely normal for most people to doubt themselves. No one likes someone who just walks around bragging about how attractive they are! However, it is important to find a balance between self-confidence and self-judgment.

XOXO Chatty Kathy

 

Dear Chatty Kathy,

I just found out that one of my closest friends has been gossiping about me throughout the duration of our entire friendship. I don’t want to confront her about it because what can I really say? It just really irks me that she can pretend to be my friend to my face but the second I walk away she talks about me. It’s not that I’m scared of confronting her, it’s just that I don’t know if I should.

Sincerely, Confused Critter

Dear Confused Critter,

I understand that it can be hard to break off a friendship, but in this case I think that it may be for the best. A friend shouldn’t be talking about you behind your back. However, it can also be important to give her the benefit of the doubt and discuss the situation with her. It’s always possible that perhaps it’s you that has misread the situation, or that you have been misinformed.

Even if it turns out that your friend has been intentionally trying to hurt your feelings, then a confrontation about it can at least give you the closure you need, and the knowledge that this person is likely not someone you would even wish to remain friends with.

XOXO Chatty Kathy

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