Dear Chatty Kathy,
For two months now, my friends and I have been joking that two of our other friends are dating. We would also say that they were married to each other even though they’re obviously not. We thought that it was a complete joke. So it turns out that they actually have been dating for two months. Weird, right? But the problem is I don’t know how to react to this. I’m really good friends with both of them and I’m not sure how I should feel about them keeping it a secret for so long. It’s kind of frustrating because they didn’t tell me, but I still want them to be happy.
Hi Frustrated Friend,
It’s hard when two close friends start dating because there is also the risk of things turning out weird. It’s also very upsetting when friends keep secrets from you, so I understand your struggle. The thing to remember though is that it is your friends who are in the relationship, not you, so you should try to respect the decisions they make. It might have been difficult for your friends to tell you they were in a relationship because you were also making jokes about them. They might have thought that you wouldn’t take them seriously, or maybe they tried to tell people and it was brushed off. They may have also been waiting until they were sure that the relationship was serious. I think that the best thing you can do in this situation is to just continue treating your friends the exact same way you always have. If they are happy with each other then you should try your hardest to be happy for them and let them enjoy their new relationship.
XOXO Chatty Kathy